Among modern people is very common one model of behavior, or rather will say, the disease, which consists in the fact that a person postpones everything for later, avoiding any problems or responsibilities. In psychology this syndrome of delay is called "procrastination." Treatment (to find the right approach is not always easy), this scourge does not all have successful results. That's why you constantly hear complaints about wasted time and unrealized goals.
A lot of people, realizing themselves incapable of doing what is necessary, say to themselves: "I was struck by procrastination. Treatment is useless. Everything is bad, I will never get anything done. " And they continue to lie on the couch or sit, staring at the computer monitor, in short, to burn their lives without the hope of fixing anything. But in fact, not everything is so bad. Procrastination is completely curable, the main thing is to realize the problem and be determined to take the necessary measures to overcome it.
Procrastination: treatment, symptoms and the nature of the phenomenon
Contrary to popular belief, the reason for behavioral inertia is not laziness, but low self-discipline. Here is the true source, in which procrastination is rooted. Treatment, respectively, should also be directed not at the investigation, but at the cause, that is, in the fight against one's own slovenliness.
Example of procrastination
What is it about? For example, a certain person decided to fix a long-running faucet in the kitchen. He, of course, thinks that it can be done "now." But at first it's better to cheer up, after listening to a couple of favorite songs. So it takes two hours. Then, having already adjusted to repairing the crane, our hero suddenly feels an easy feeling of hunger and decides to satisfy his physiological needs first. Of course, after that he remembers that for health after dinner it would be nice to lie down with half an hour, which stretch for another half or two. And then on schedule football. What kind of crane can there be when a favorite team plays? After the match, in any case, there is no mood to repair something. After all, if "our" win, you do not want to cloud the joyful disposition of the spirit with some kind of everyday nonsense. And if they lose, then the feeling of resentment and the apathy generated by it will be pulled again on the couch or to the refrigerator - "seize the grief". Well, the crane will wait until tomorrow.
Surely many will recognize themselves in this image. How many have already accumulated five-minute cases, which the hands do not reach to fulfill many days, weeks, months and even years? This is procrastination. Treatment - medicines, pills and all sorts of newfangled devices - will not help here. The solution of the problem is inside the person. Consecutive motivated work on yourself, the desire to change the situation and the courage to do it - this is the therapy from which your procrastination will go into oblivion. Treatment, the scheme of which fits into five practical steps, is given below.
Step one - create a list of tasks
The very first thing to do is to compile a detailed list of cases. This list should include both those tasks that were not completed, and those that were not even started (but which still need to be done). At work, according to this list, the whole practice of overcoming in oneself inert tendencies will be built. In fact, it often turns out that there are far fewer things to come than it seemed, and there are no grounds for fear and despair.
The most important thing is to do the list right now, before any great excuse comes to mind, to transfer everything to "in an hour," "tomorrow," or "Monday." When the list is ready, one can understand the fact that one thing has already been accomplished, and feel happy about it. And the second step follows logically from the first.
Step Two - the system of rewards
Usually at this stage, inertia in behavior is still strong, and procrastination still prevails over a person. Treatment against her will consist in the execution of the following rule: every completed case from the list should be rewarded. Develop yourself an acceptable system of rewards, and every time after completing the next task, do not forget to give yourself a reward. This will arouse a healthy excitement and interest in the necessary work. And most importantly - in the mind a pleasant feeling of self-satisfaction, victory, a sense of one's own strength will be fixed. This will stimulate further actions and block the urge of an inert start to watch TV, drink tea or check the update of your favorite public on the social network.
Step Three - List Distribution
However, compiling a list and a system of incentives is not all. To make past procrastination, treatment should include something more. Therefore, in the third stage, it is necessary to divide all items of the list into four components according to the criteria of importance and urgency:
- It is important and urgent.
- Important and not urgent.
- Not important and urgent.
- It is not important or urgent.
Cases from the last group can be easily crossed out. They only take time and, in fact, are useless. First of all you need to take care of the tasks from the first group. The third group would also be nice to "break through", but what remains will be done after the first one. The main attention in the long term should be given to tasks from the second group - they concentrate the most desired and significant plans of a person.
Step four - get up and go
Perhaps this point is the most prosaic and boring of all, but it is necessary. The cases still have to be done, they are not reintegrated from our reality. But with a sorted list and a prepared award, they will begin to be made much more quickly. So quickly that it is important sometimes to be able and to restrain yourself from bouts of workaholism. If the day has not yet ended, and all the plans have already been fulfilled, you do not need to load yourself further, like Pope Carlo. With a clear conscience, go and rest and do your favorite things. Let this subtle moment of pleasure remain in the subconscious. The next day, this pleasant feeling encourages us to take up work as soon as possible.
And if you download yourself once to complete, then the subconscious mind will retain a feeling of fatigue and displeasure from the large volume of cases. Then the whole process of combating procrastination will go wrong. Remember the strategy of the siege - you need to disassemble the wall on a brick every day, and do not go famously to the attack, mobilizing all your haste. In addition, rest is not a luxury, but a necessary period of restoration of strength and energy.
Step five - no lynch
Undoubtedly, from time to time there will be times when you will not be able to fulfill the plan for the day. Do not worry. This is not a "resurrected" procrastination. Treatment works, but there is always a place for the human factor - did not calculate the strength, summed up the circumstances. In the end, sometimes you need to be able to spit on your business. For example, when there is a sharp need to pay attention and time to the family - parents, spouse (or spouse), children. It is important not to overlook the very important rule - never blame yourself for not fulfilling the plan. Strictly exclude any self-criticism and remorse on this matter. Negative is enough in life, and in this case he will have only a destructive effect.
The human psyche is so arranged that if for some "jamb" it punishes itself (even if it's a simple reprimand), then the incentive to correct the situation instantly disappears. Turns on a mechanism that looks for ways to avoid unpleasant work. Then the enthusiasm disappears and the "deviator" wakes up again, which is vital before every small business to have a cup of tea or watch a series of favorite cartoons. Therefore - no criticism in their address and no punishments! Did not finish today? Nothing, rest. Tomorrow take with a double passion and enthusiasm.
That's all the wisdom. There is nothing super complicated or difficult to understand and perform in the proposed methodology. Just decide that you have enough of this disorder in your affairs, your own disorganization and that it's time to change your life. And everything - the process will already begin, act now!