When a long-awaited baby is born, the parents' task is to carefully introduce it into the world, protect them from adversity, and put them on the right path. This great responsibility is shared by Orthodox parents with the heavenly patron and godparents. After the rite of baptism, the life and fate of the child are entrusted to the aspirations of the Lord and the instructions of the godparents.
How to choose godparents
Baptism is a church ordinance, at the time of which the further destiny of the human soul is determined. When baptized, the child is identified with the godparent parents. How to choose the godmothers loved one, who should be given such responsibility, can the husband and wife be godparents?
In fairness, it should be noted that there are some disagreements within the church on this issue. There is an opinion that in our time the godparents can become a married couple, and this is being discussed. But these doubts are theoretical, and practically do not affect the daily life of the church. In the interests of the further well-being of the godparents and godchildren, it is better to follow when choosing the approved order of things.
The role of godparents in the life of godson
According to church rules, Orthodox parishioners can be considered as receivers in the rite of baptism. After all, the godparents and mother must become spiritual guides to the child for life. Will, for example, your familiar husband and wife be worthy of the cross for your child? After all, their role only begins after baptism: they must introduce the godson to the church, introduce Christian virtue, teach the basics of religion. It must be responsible, sincere believers, for it is their prayers for the godson that are paramount for the Lord throughout his life. Choosing a child for the godparents is a responsible step. The main thing is the ability of these people to be responsible for the godson before God, take care of his spiritual development and guide him to the righteous path. The church believes that the godfather must accept all the sins of a godson who has not reached the age of 16 on himself.
Who should not to choose godparents
When choosing the followers, the child's family is puzzled by the problem, can a husband and wife be godparents? For example, a familiar married couple, close to the family of the godson in spirit and church, is the best suited for the role of mentors. Their family is an example of consent, their relationship is permeated with love and mutual understanding. But is it possible to be godmother to this husband and wife?
Can a husband and wife have one godchild? No, according to church laws, this is unacceptable. For the spiritual bond that arises between the recipients at baptism gives rise to a close spiritual union that is higher than any other, including love and marriage. It is unacceptable that spouses can become godparents, this will undermine the continued existence of their marriage.
If the husband and wife are in a civil marriage
Doubt if I could be God-husband and wife in a civil marriage with the Church clearly decides in the negative. According to Church rules godparents can not be neither the wife nor the couple in anticipation of marriage. Preaching the Orthodox people the need for the conclusion of Church marriage, the Church at the same time considers a civil marriage that is registered in the registry office, legal. Therefore, the question whether to be God-husband and wife have approved their Union registration in the registry office, permitted a negative answer.
Couples can not become godparents as betrothed, because they are on the eve of marriage, as well as couples living together outside of marriage, because these unions are regarded as sinful.
Who can become godfather?
Can a husband and wife be godparents to different children? Yes, this is a perfectly acceptable option. The husband, for example, will become the godfather of the son of close people, and the wife - the godfather. Grandmothers and grandfathers, aunts and uncles, elder sisters and brothers can also become godparents. The main thing is that it should be a worthy Orthodox Christian, ready to help the child grow up in the Orthodox faith. The choice of the godfather is really a responsible decision, because it is done for life. Godfather can not be changed in the future. If the godfather stumbles on the path of life, descends from the right direction, the godson should be pleased about him with prayers.
The rules of the rite of baptism
Before the ceremony the future godfathers are trained in the church, get acquainted with the basic rules:
- before the sacrament of baptism they observe a three-day fast, confess and receive communion;
- Always wear a native Orthodox cross;
- Dress appropriately for the ceremony; women wear a skirt below the knee length, always cover the head; Do not use lipstick;
- the godparents should know and understand the meaning of "Our Father" and "The Symbol of Faith", so these prayers are pronounced during the rite.
In exceptional cases, there are situations when parents have no other choice for godparents, except for a single married couple. Doubts whether a husband and wife can be godchild for a child, in this case, more than relevant. It must be remembered that, according to church rules, it is quite enough to define to the child only one godfather, but same-sex, that is, we choose the boy godfather, and the girl - the godmother.
In each case, when parents have individual questions or doubts, whether it is possible to be a godfather and wife, they should be discussed with the priest during the preparation for baptism. Rarely, but still there are cases where the question of whether the husband and wife can be godparents, by special permission and due to exceptional circumstances, the church decides positively.