Dating is always interesting. Someone makes new contacts easily and at ease, while others are thoroughly approaching this process. But if this acquaintance with a representative of the opposite sex, which also represents a certain attraction, everything changes. There is a special interest - both guys and girls. But now I would like to talk about what excites the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity. Namely: what are the best questions to ask the guy to get to know him better?
You always need to start with something generalized. If the girl whom the guy met 5 minutes ago begins to throw in his questions like: "In which dress would you like to see your future wife at the wedding?", Most likely, she will never see him again. It's just not right and, frankly, strange.
When meeting you can ask about his preferences. About your favorite musical and cinematic genre, for example. Suddenly tastes converge?
Still it is possible to take an interest, whether the young man wishes to visit any certain place (the country, a city, a corner of the nature) and why? About hobbies and hobbies, too, is worth inquiring. Many neglect such questions, believing that they are banal and boring. In fact, they are underestimated. These are the same questions the guy needs to know better. And find out how much the potential couple can be interesting with each other in the future. If she adores camping, traveling by car and diving, and he prefers computer games and books, it is unlikely that the possible relationship has prospects.
What kind of person are you?
Actually say, this is what interests every girl. But you do not ask directly directly. Therefore, you can ask a few questions to the guy to get to know him better.
Is he kind? You can find out by asking if the guy loves animals, which ones and why. Kind people are usually not indifferent to our lesser brothers.
Does she have fun? It is worth inquiring about his attitude to parties and holidays.
What is his character - calm or not? You can ask how it relates to noise. If the guy does not tolerate him, then, most likely, his temper is peaceful. Although not a fact.
Then, in the process of further acquaintance, you can ask about what annoys a guy, violates his peace or, on the contrary, pleases. But this should not look like an interrogation. The girl should also be involved. Usually it looks like this: "Is there something that you can not stand at home? I, for example, start to get nervous if the apartment starts to make noise. Because I have improved sound insulation in my room. " If the interlocutor in the process says something about himself, it's easier for the guy to share, because some connection is being established.
The manifestation of interest
After finding out hobbies and hobbies, you can turn directly to the personality of the young man. That is, show interest in his opinion about something. But only in no case should you touch politics or religion. These topics are rarely raised even in the circle of loved ones, which is to say about unfamiliar people.
The questions can be built on this principle: "We are soon to open toll roads - what do you think, is it somehow" defuse "the movement?" Or so: "What is your opinion about the tax on overhaul?" However, then its own. It is better that the questions relate to current topical issues. About them you can talk for a long time, talk and share opinions. While the guy will respond, the girl will be able to understand how much his speech is developed, whether he is erudite, whether he can argue the told, etc. And he, in turn, will have a pleasant impression of his interlocutor - she shows interest, is informed about the opponent's opinion, offers topics for conversation. This is also a kind of plus sign.
Many girls are interested in what questions to ask a guy to better know his personal characteristics, which he possesses.
You can ask what he values most in his life and why. To know what he dreams about, what he strives for and why. Would he like to live forever and why? For what other people love him and what good deeds he has ever done. And also, a guy could give his life for the sake of saving another person and what can cause him to do it. And of course, on what he will spend a million dollars in the case of such a win? Maybe it's trite, but according to the answer, you can draw some conclusions about the preferences and priorities of a person.
These are good questions for the guy to better find out. The list can be continued, but it is worth remembering - about all of the above, it is better not to inquire from the first minutes of dating.
"No" to interrogations about finances
Well, the above was told about how you can ask questions to a guy to better recognize him. And now - about those that are generally better not to voice. And they concern money.
Surprisingly, there are a large number of girls and women who ask guys and men such questions: "Should the wife work in the family? How much would you give her from your salary? Have you had financial difficulties and how did you deal with them? Who should manage the family budget, what part of the wages of the two spouses goes to it? Who is obliged to pay the bills? "And this is just a small list of the most inappropriate questions. Although, it is more correct to call this interrogation.
Why is it better to remain silent?
And many are genuinely puzzled - why can not you ask these questions to a guy to get to know him better? Because it's indecent. There will be an impression that the girl is interested not in a young man, but in his money. Will show it in a bad light - like a dependent, for example. Or a person so unimportant that he can not even find a job for himself. And besides, everyone knows that "people are climbing into someone else's wallet" only self-serving people.
By the way, you still do not need to touch on the subject of relatives, not knowing about it details (maybe a guy from an orphanage, from an unhappy family or an orphan?) And ask about former girls. For the reasons described above.
After some time after dating, you can start talking and on other topics. On everything "How are you?", "Was it a good day?", "What did you do today?" The relationship will be at a friendly stage for a long time. So, what questions to ask to know a guy better?
It is worth to ask about what he is proud of. Maybe it's his personal trait, ability, skill. Learning what exactly he likes to boast of, it will be possible to recognize before himself a self-sufficient benevolent person or an egoist.
It is worth asking him to tell about interesting, funny, crazy or terrible cases that happened to him. Learning what the most incredible act he did, you will be able to recognize the boundaries of the guy and how far he is ready to go. Continue the topic with talk about extreme activities and risks. Also very interesting topic. Maybe there are two madmen sitting opposite each other?
Perhaps, there can be no more "eternal" theme. If the girl thinks about asking interesting questions to the guy, in order to better know him, we must ask about life. About how he wants to spend it, who to work with, what to do. What he values most, what he is willing to spend a lot of time. What is his worldview. What he thinks is the main thing, what values he has defined for himself, what he has decided to strive for.
Usually people readily respond to such questions. But only after some time after dating, since this is a kind of "disclosure of the soul." And that's why it's important to react correctly to the revelations you hear. Tactful girls do not have this problem. But some, after hearing what seems to them wrong, begin to object. Let's say a guy said that he does not see himself as a family man - he would like to devote his whole life to building his business and then resting with his beloved woman. And the girl starts to resent: "But how? What about children? A house with a garden and a dog? It's so wrong to live! "It is important to understand - not to judge someone else's life. It is better just to continue to be interested in his preferences and plans. And about yourself, by the way, do not forget to tell during the conversation. It's not an interview, it's a pleasant conversation, implying a response.
Many girls are wondering - and what tricky questions to ask the guy to better recognize him? All that relate to relationships and love. They, of course, do not contain a dirty trick, but by the way a guy will answer them, you can learn a lot of interesting things. It is enough to look at his behavior at this moment, gestures, to listen to the formulations.
You can ask, does the guy remember his first love? Did he have instances of unrequited feelings, which it was difficult to cope with? Or maybe he is amorous and quite often "put" on someone's eyes? Also, some ask about what the guy could go for his "second half."
And, finally, what does the word "love" mean to him? Is it possible to feel this feeling towards several people at once? And how does he relate to the concept of "free" love?
However, this topic, like everything that concerns it, belongs to the category of personal. Therefore, it is necessary to touch it when young people are in more or less intimate relations.
Evening of awkward themes
It is also sometime possible to arrange, but being in a relationship. However, the girl needs to be prepared for the fact that she would have to answer awkward questions. That's the whole point of these evenings – that's just many people like only to ask questions and listen to answers.
Here are the most "decent" awkward questions (at least those that allow censorship): "Are you watching a video of an erotic nature? Got drunk ever before unconsciousness? Fulfilled a shameful impatient desire and what was it like? Had problems of a criminal nature? Doing intimate haircuts? Had a relationship with the girls of easy virtue? "
Such questions can be considered from the category of "for warming up". Because the human imagination is unlimited - you can think of something pohlesche. By the way, such evenings have an undoubted advantage - they bring people together, help them to open up, and certainly help them to get to know each other much better. The main thing - to conduct such conversations tete-a-tete, face to face. Many girls, of course, ask similar questions to a guy by correspondence in order to get to know him better. But through the text do not see all the emotions, because the idea is better to save up for the meeting.