How to keep a man? How to make the faithful and think forget about others and instead give himself entirely to the one who really loves him more than life? These and many other issues overcome the girls, especially those who suffer from this light feeling. Well, the topic is serious, and it should be discussed in more detail.
Understand the nature of the problem
To begin with, I would like to understand the nature of the issue. Many girls are puzzled by how to keep a man, but a few (and this, I must say, very wise and intelligent people) decide to start thinking about the situation. After all, if the faithful began to move away, there is a reason for this. It is not always logical, sometimes insulting and unfounded, but it is. It is unlikely that the guy will voice it herself, although such honest and sincere specimens are found. But if he is silent or evades from the answer, then before you detain a man, you will need to solve this riddle.
Maybe the reason lies in the girl. But her young man as a gentleman does not want to offend his chosen one. In any case, for starters, it's worth talking to him. Unobtrusively, gently. You can start something like this: "I began to notice that something strange is happening in our relations. Maybe it only seems to me, and I'll be happy if I'm wrong. " And then you can already express your guesses. Even after his answer, you can think further. If the young man confirmed his fears and said that he does not like it, then it is necessary to act in a certain, concrete direction. Of course, perhaps, the reason will be unpleasant to hear, but what to do, few people like the truth. But the truth will be clarified, and this is a plus. But if the guy does not say anything, will not say anything or answer what you really thought, it will be harder. Most likely, he just does not want to talk about it. But a woman's flair is difficult to deceive. So you have to reflect on yourself, just like solving a problem. Well, how to keep a man?
Communication and psychological problems
It is not a secret for anyone that often problems in relationships arise due to misunderstandings, disrespect, scandals, quarrels and abuse. And in many cases all this, strangely enough, does not have any ground. Perhaps your young man is too jealous and he began to cool down because he "wound" himself. No guy wants to feel cheated, especially thinking that he was changed.
Well, even if it is not so, it is necessary to reconcile with this trait of the character of the beloved and to do everything possible to evade the suspicions: more often to be near, answer by phone with mentioning names, tell him who is calling, who writes and . Well, if there is no such possibility, then how to keep a beloved man in that case? Only one way is to constantly prove your love.
Of course, not for every girl he comes up: the cause can be pride, self-esteem, etc. However, if it is about love, you can certainly give up. Words, actions - whatever. In the end, the man will understand that you are really loyal to him, and will stop rolling quarrels and scandals based on vain suspicions. Of course, an immediate result should not be expected, but gradually the problem will be solved. The main thing is to do everything sincerely and with all the heart. Guys feel it. And believe.
How to win a man and keep him, they write whole books. Why? Because every girl knows that attracting the attention of a guy is not so difficult, but to make it so that he remains with her forever - harder. They say that a man is like a ball. If a girl releases him from her hands, he will blossom. And vice versa.
We must remember that we will have to sacrifice something. After all, for a loved one you can go for almost anything. Devote him as much time as needed, sometimes - at the expense of their interests and hobbies, communication with others and other activities. In general, give all himself to him. But it is important not to live in pink glasses and to perceive the reality as it is. It is necessary to pay attention to everything that happens in a relationship. Otherwise, you can miss some very important detail. In order to maintain a relationship, you must constantly analyze them.
Novelty and freshness in relationships
Monotony bothers you. This is known to all. Every person constantly wants something new. And if a girl can satisfy this desire with some pleasant purchase, then the guys usually solve the problem differently: they are looking for novelties in the relationship. And God forbid it to him to come to find himself another girl. In addition, the conqueror's instinct will also be included. New entertainment is to try to get another girl. Even if only for a while, then to return to your beloved. For some (not for everyone, of course) guys this is absolutely normal. But for a loving girl - a real punishment and pain. How to keep a man who considers the above described normal? Not so difficult.
You need to increase your importance in the eyes of your boyfriend. The way by which this can be achieved is not suitable for all men, it must be noted at once. You can designate them like that - jealous hunters. These are not the ones that will tear off the head of anyone who approaches his lady of heart closer than a kilometer. These are the guys who like that their lover attracts the attention of other men. This behavior seems to say: "You have a great taste, you know the sense in women, you are lucky that it is yours!" Such a situation can be provoked, ask a friend to play along.
Still need to remember the desire for novelty. You can just take and change. Surely the girl knows what attracts her boyfriend in the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity. And the changes can be both external and internal. You can reconsider your character: to strengthen or weaken some qualities. Make the look more confident, make sure of your own uniqueness, become stronger, more independent, more boring. Of course, it is best if these changes occur after some separation (for example, both did not see each other for a week or two). It would be more logical than if he and she fell asleep together in the same bed, and after eight hours the girl suddenly woke up with another character.
In general, it is worth thinking about this. In fact, the answer to the question of how to fall in love with and hold a man is extremely simple. You just need to become that girl that he will never tire of loving.
Return value to yourself
If we talk about how to keep a man, we can not fail to note a point that can be conditionally designated as a fear of loss. You can try to hold your beloved in some tension, make him remember that you are a value. Only not direct text, of course. You can do this in many ways: starting with those mentioned above (collect the admiring glances of other men), ending with the "closer-farther" method.
He is in that, for a certain time to be with him as tender, sweet, loving and affectionate, and then suddenly disappear. He will call - answer dryly and with restraint, saying: "I can not speak now." Ask about the meeting - to come up with a more important business. But the main thing is not to go too far with terms. Some guys will have half a day of such a "game", while others will not be enough for a week. It all depends on the nature. Is it possible to hold a man in this way? Completely. As soon as he feels that there is a possibility of losing his beloved, one that values him and belongs only to him, he will have fear and desire to return everything.
You can still make a deliberate break. Make him want to get bored. Everyone knows that if people see each other too often, it gets boring. Someone begins to feel a desire to relax from this regime a month later, someone - a year later. If the girl feels that her boyfriend starts to cool to her, it's time to "go on a business trip" for a week or two. Because of the "loaded work plan" only five minutes a day to talk. "Dear, I'm sorry, I'm really uncomfortable, but when I return, we'll meet and make up for lost! It's only half a month, nothing terrible, "- this final phrase will make him worried. He used to see his favorite every day, and then suddenly such a sharp break. Definitely, the man will be bored. He may not say this, but after "returning from a business trip" the girl will feel it herself.
Errors of girls who have lost their heads
Well, there are a lot of ways to restore the former acuteness to relations with your boyfriend. The above is just a minimum. However, how to keep a married man? Unfortunately, a fairly common question. Will the child hold the man who already has a family? Thought, I must say, insane. And many girls, who lost their heads from a married man, decide on such an act - to get pregnant from him and try this "joyful" for him news to keep the lover.
This is a fatal mistake. So you can only spoil everything. A married man will understand what he has done (although 99% of the probability that he will require confirmation, because many decide to deceive in such a way to keep their happiness), and disappear, giving money for abortion.
In general, I must say, the affair with a young man who officially has a wife - is a matter of ignoble and low. For a girl, this means being an "alternate option." In any case, even if he has fallen out of love with his official half, his wife has more rights to him than you. Most of these novels ended in failure. Sometimes a wife and a man can not keep a child, but here the chances are small. There, in marriage, he has stability, a family, perhaps even children, and what he found on the side, most likely, is simply the diversity mentioned above. Novelty is there. But if the girl decided to adjust the pregnancy, it is better not to do it. Otherwise, you can remain a single mother without alimony.
Guys with a character
Many girls, puzzled by how to attract and retain a man, begin to look for answers from the stars, that is, to look at the horoscope. Sometimes this can really help. Whatever one may say, representatives of these or other signs of the zodiac are similar to each other. Of course, for a more accurate solution, you should also know the identity of your lover to the Chinese horoscope, as well as other nuances (beginning with the time of birth and ending with your favorite color), but the general knowledge is also not bad. Well, it's worth talking about how to keep a man-Gemini, Taurus and Capricorn.
Let's start with Gemini. What, or rather, who they like? Beautiful girls with whom it is interesting to flirt. The chosen one should be clever, educated, independent, competent in the spheres that concern them, and, importantly, it is necessary that she thinks outside the box. The girl should also be open and sincere, trusting her boyfriend. If we talk about how to hold a Gemini man, then one can state one thing with certainty: he must always speak only the truth. And do not limit his freedom. Twins hate when they are forbidden. Be that as it may, these men are not inclined to deep feelings. It is necessary to accept it. So, if you want to keep such a guy, you need to be the most interesting person, constantly cultivate, develop and surprise him with something new every day. For Gemini there are no ideal girls. For them there are ideal companions of life - those who will become for them all: both friend, and support, and support. With such a lady, he will agree to be for the rest of his life. By the way, you can say the same about Capricorns. Only they are perhaps more jealous, and intimate relationships for them play a greater role than for Gemini.
Taurus - these individuals should be discussed in more detail. Incredibly jealous and always suspecting the dishonesty of the owner, which can only be kept by love, truth and faithfulness, which we constantly need to remind him of. To say that he is the only and unique, the best and the beloved, that no one else needs and that even if you were offered $ 10 million, you would still choose him. It warms the soul of Taurus. If a girl wants to have a long and happy relationship with him, he will have to love, constantly proving this with words and actions. In general, I must say, Taurus are excellent loving guys. Only their feelings and trust need to be won. What was said above. But one thing can be said with certainty: boredom and routine in relations with Taurus will not be for sure. This is the eternal fireworks of emotions and feelings.
Soft and sensual
Libra and Sagittarius - perhaps the most sensual signs of the zodiac of all 12 existing. And it is in this sequence, which is indicated. How to keep a man-Libra? Simpler is simple: for this, one does not even need to do anything if he himself is mad about his lover. The fact is that the representatives of this sign (both guys and girls) are very vulnerable and emotional, although they are trying their best to hide it. And because they are great actors, distinguished by such qualities as cunning and resourcefulness, they get it superbly. But when they remain alone with themselves, this is the most heart-wrenching stream of emotions that only can be.
Moreover, the Libra guy is easy to conquer, even if he did not pay attention to you before. It is necessary to show activity, initiative, in every way to enchant it and show that you are not indifferent to it. Compliments, too, will not be superfluous, on the contrary, - these guys "love ears." Libra - these are people who love that they love them. Paradox, but such amazing personalities also exist. So it's very easy to find a common language with them. But do not play with them. Despite all their softness, openness and sensuality, these people, offended and angry, are capable of strong revenge.
And how to keep Sagittarius? The man of this sign of the Zodiac is also easy to conquer. It's a dreamy person. Emotional guy, adoring communication. So, if you want to become his chosen one, you must turn into his like-minded and reliable partner. Be sure to support his interests, tastes and preferences. If he is a football fan of the Munich Bayern Munich, and you, it turns out, are also not keen on the soul in this team, then this suddenly manifested fact will significantly increase your value in his eyes. Also do not forget about the softness and tenderness. The girl of Sagittarius is a refined lady, but self-confident.
Unpredictability and initiative
These are two words that describe the male Aquarius as best as possible. By his unexpected actions, he is able to surprise anyone. About how to keep a man-Aquarius, you can say eternity. The fact is that these guys are representatives of the most unstable sign of the Zodiac. And if you start a relationship with him, you will have to realize that this is a game. A very complex quest, which will have to manifest itself in the same way as in the case of Gemini. With Aquarius, you need to be interesting, original, surprising and amazing. For him, the girl is not just a friend and partner. This is an object for study. For Aquarius, you must always be a mystery and a mystery. And when he unravels one of them, you must immediately give him another. Aquarius in relationships should not be boring, because they choose usually extraordinary personalities. If you are, great. If not, you will have to work on yourself, your character, behavior, habits and, perhaps, even a way of life.
And how to keep the man-Virgo - the person from whom you can not expect fairy tales? We'll have to work hard. First, you need to accept the fact that the guy-Virgo is the one who carefully conceals his thoughts, especially dreams. He is not a romantic or an optimist. And it does not become so, so do not try to change it. Of course, not all Virgo are pedants and realists who are skeptical. However, in their nature, these features manifest themselves quite often. Why are Virgo guys so attractive? Because they are very caring. And for many girls this is the main thing. So, if you want to purchase a support in the form of this person, you will have to accept his habit of criticizing everything. And he will have to be revealed to him.
Unfortunately, it is not uncommon for girls to be puzzled by the question of how to keep their loved one near them. And all solve this problem in their own way. Some are talking, which is sometimes quite enough. Others begin to struggle, to save the relationship with all their might: changing themselves, their habitual way of life, character, appearance, if only the beloved once again turned his attention to his girlfriend. Still others let things go by themselves, hoping that the problem will be solved by itself. However, however that may be, one should not lose hope. Relationships without difficulties do not happen. We are all people, and sometimes every person has a healthy desire to leave. But in this case it is necessary to understand the essence of the problem and remember what it all started for. Sometimes guys save relationships, sometimes girls, but the main thing here is the mutual desire to preserve joint happiness. Then everything will turn out.