Kabardian weddings are considered one of the most fun and entertaining national family holidays. It is noteworthy that they are always attended by various kinds of conflicts and quarrels. It's not a bad organization. The tradition to argue at this celebration appeared several years ago, based on ancient national customs.
It all starts with the fact that the groom's relatives help find a girl who will suit him as a bride. Then the groom and his closest relatives go to the girl's house, hoping that her father will give consent to the marriage of her daughter. In case of a positive answer, they start discussing the topic of the kalym. We must immediately warn that the groom is not always lucky from the first time to receive a blessing from his future father-in-law. Often he sent an annoying guy with nothing.
The goal could be achieved after the second, third, etc. call. Apparently, in this way the firmness of intentions was tested. This is how the Kabardian wedding begins, in Nalchik, for example.
After the families agreed on the kalym, they moved on to the next stage - the bridegrooms. With the ritual exchange of engagement rings for a long time was not delayed. As soon as the groom has contributed part of the previously agreed amount of kalym, it was possible to withdraw her lover from her parents' house.
From that moment the bridegroom and the bride were resettled in different houses. According to tradition, the future husband and relatives should not be in contact for a while. The rule was particularly severe in relation to the bride, groom and elders. Only after a long period of time to the longing boy was allowed to bring the beloved. The first thing the girl was looking at was a room where young people would soon have to dwell. The general hall was allowed to see a few weeks later. Kabardian weddings are observance of all traditions and ceremonies.
Such a superficial description is not able to reflect the spectacularity of the rituals of the Kabardian wedding, which in reality there are many. Unfortunately, with each new generation, traditions and rituals are gradually forgotten, they lose their original content. Although often at a modern Kabardian wedding there are national costumes and temperamental dance elements, but not all indigenous people have such a liking. What makes them resent?
Modern traditions of Kabardian weddings
In scenarios of modern weddings of Kabardians, the abduction of the bride is considered an obligatory ritual. Relatives took the girl in her house. The parents who came to the house asked her if she agreed. This was not in the old days. If the answer was yes, then from that moment the young couple was considered a husband and wife. Marriage must be registered with a Muslim priest, an imam, invited to the house.
A beautiful Kabardian wedding, like all other holidays, is celebrated at home. Local residents do not imagine that it could be organized in any cafe or restaurant. This is because in the case of a girl's refusal she should be able to freely return to her home. This option was not envisaged in previous years. As soon as a marriage with observance of all Muslim traditions is concluded, young people start preparing for an exciting celebration.
It is generally believed that after the bride and groom have spent their first wedding night in life, as material evidence it is necessary to take out of the house a sheet on which they slept together. Despite the fact that Islam has a negative attitude toward such a rite, many Caucasians continue to adhere to it.
According to tradition, representatives of opposite sex are obliged to celebrate Kabardian weddings separately. Strange as it may seem, guests should not see the bride.
How do modern European traditions affect the celebration of the Kabardian wedding?
Modern European trends penetrate the traditions of all peoples living outside Europe. Every year, national rituals are forgotten, identity is lost. Now no wedding can not do without an expensive car, all present try to put on garments for the latest fashion squeak. And, of course, the solemn event must be photographed on video, recorded on a digital media. Also special Kabardian toasts are prepared for the wedding.
The opinions of the indigenous people were divided into opposite: some approve of innovations, others remain adherents of the traditions of ancestors.
In the end, the right to choose how to celebrate a wedding is given to the relatives of the newlyweds. In any case, Kabardian weddings are fun and spectacular.