Wedding for Orthodox parishioners is not only a beautiful rite, which marks the blessing of the couple for family life, but also one of the greatest sacraments.
It is necessary to understand the seriousness and responsibility of marriage in the face of the Lord. Although this process is currently reversible, it is not recommended to do so. That is why you should weigh all of the above and ask again the question to yourself and your future spouse, whether each of the couple is ready to take this path. It happens that one of the young is not a believer. Based on this, there are many nuances associated with the wedding. On the eve of this action, a young couple is often interested in the details of the process. After all, is it really important to know what is needed for a wedding? And how exactly does it happen?
In the wedding ceremony, everything is important. The internal state, as well as the thoughts of the bride and groom, and even the handkerchief wrapped around the candle have the same value. Further it is necessary to understand, from what actions the wedding itself consists. The rules of this process are divided into religious and social. Without observing some, the fulfillment of others is impossible. One of the social rules is, for example, preliminary registration of marriage in the registry office with the issuance of an official document confirming this fact. Then a few more points need to be met in order to get married. The rules also say that the age of newlyweds allowed for the ceremony should be at least 18 years.
However, there are some cases in which it is allowed that the bride was 16. Also, it is not possible for any of the future spouses to have a marriage with a third person registered and not terminated so far. Newlyweds can not be admitted to the wedding ceremony if they are related to each other or in the appropriate connection up to the third tribe. Compliance with all rules is mandatory.
Is it necessary to be baptized?
There are several other necessary items that are needed for the wedding. For example, both of the current couple must undergo a baptismal rite in their lives. If this for some reason has not yet happened, then this process must be carried out beforehand before the wedding. A separate case for consideration is the desire of a couple to tie themselves up in the face of the Lord, when one of the newlyweds is a representative of another religion. For example, a parishioner of the Catholic and Lutheran churches. This situation is resolved as follows.
A couple is admitted to the ceremony solely in the event that each of the spouses agrees to bring up the children born in this union to the traditions and canons of the Orthodox faith. It is unacceptable to consider the wedding of a newly-married couple, who already have a kinship. For example, godchildren or godparents. It is not allowed to tie the couple in the marriage of God, if the bridegroom or bride openly declares atheism or performing the rite not according to personal will. In this case, the supporters of the wedding, as a rule, become the parents of one of the parties. In such a situation, the priest has the right to refuse to conduct the ceremony. The last rule says that you can not get married more than three times in your life. Although, of course, it is better to carry out this ceremony once and for all.
Communion and confession - obligatory rites before the wedding
An important stage in preparing for the sacrament is the communion, as well as the confession of each of the couple. On the eve of these rituals, one should observe fasting, which lasts three days. He imposes a restriction on this period in the form of a ban on the use of alcoholic beverages, as well as intimate intimacy between spouses. This period is best spent on reading prayers, communicating with the Almighty and tuning in the right way. This leads to the order of thought, and also brings pacification. After the expiration of the three-day fasting, one must certainly confess, having repented of one's sins. After all previous rituals, the spouses are considered ready for the wedding.
Crosses and rings for the wedding
What do you need for the wedding? On the day of the ceremony, all those who are going to attend it must have crosses with them. First of all, this applies, of course, to the newlyweds. Neckline crosses are one of their main and inalienable attributes of the ceremony. The second important element is the ring. Earlier it was necessary to prepare a pair of rings, one of which was made of gold and symbolized the masculine principle and its strength. The second was silver and personified female energy. Now these traditions are not binding. The main thing is that the rings are liked and comfortable for the couple.
It is important to observe the following rule. Rings should be given to the priest, who will conduct the ceremony, before it starts. They will be on the throne for sanctification.
Icons - this is what you need for the wedding without fail. There should be two of them: one - the Blessed Virgin, the other - Christ. After the ceremony, the icons should be taken away and placed in the newlyweds' house. This will serve as a very strong amulet to protect the home and the family as a whole. Also, in advance, you should purchase wedding candles and necessarily wrap them with a white handkerchief so as not to burn yourself with melted wax. An important attribute of the ceremony are towels with wedding symbols. One of them will spread under the feet of the couple, the second will tie their hands. At the end of the ceremony, they should be stacked for storage in the newlyweds' house.
Requirements for the bride herself
Separate requirements must be observed by the bride. The wedding in the church does not allow outright dresses, including denuding the neckline, shoulders and back. Today it is difficult to find a dress that meets these requirements. And if this happens, it is unlikely that the outfit will meet modern fashion trends. Therefore, in this case, a cape for the wedding is used. It can be in the form of a jacket or mantle. These elements of the outfit should also be light in color and cover the specified parts of the body. The cape for the wedding can be laced or laced. Such an element can make the appearance of the bride simply stunning. Also it must be remembered that it is obligatory during the ceremony to all the fair sex to be with a covered head. For a bride, this can be a veil, a hat. Any other headgear that matches with a wedding dress is also suitable.
The cost of the rite
When everything is ready and the appointed day has come, they proceed directly to the conduct of the rite itself. Honeymooners, of course, are interested in the question of how much they will get married. The price of the church action itself, as a rule, is not called by the clergy. Because in the church only a voluntary donation is accepted in such amount, which the newlyweds and their relatives consider necessary and sufficient. The main expenses are spent on the purchase of wedding attributes. It includes crosses, wedding candles and scarves, towels, icons, a cloak to the bride, and, of course, the attire.
Many newlyweds significantly facilitate the procedure, having previously passed the ceremony of betrothal. If it is held on the day of the wedding, then it takes much longer. This ordinance, as a rule, occurs one month before the main procession. At the choice of the newlyweds, they can invite guests to one of the pre-wedding ceremonies. According to many couples, this division of rituals is very justified. After all, on one of them, the newlyweds are present together, not counting the priest. This procedure is perceived as a real sacrament. Because the presence of a large number of people does not contribute to this feeling. If the ceremony of betrothal is held separately, this significantly shortens the length of the wedding procession. Such a solution is convenient if elderly guests or children are invited to the rite.