Wedding for Orthodox parishioners is not only a beautiful ceremony that marks the blessing of a couple for family life, but also one of the greatest sacraments.
You need to understand the seriousness and responsibility of marrying before the Lord. Although this process is currently reversible, it is not recommended. That is why you should weigh all of the above and once again ask yourself and your future spouse whether each couple is ready to take this path. It happens that one of the young is not a believer. Based on this, there are many nuances associated with the wedding. On the eve of this action, a young couple is often interested in the details of the process. Is it really important to know what is needed for a wedding? And how exactly does everything happen?
Everything is important in the wedding ceremony. The internal state has the same value, as well as the thoughts of the bride and groom, and even the handkerchief wrapped around the candle. Next, you should understand what actions the wedding itself consists of. The rules of this process are divided into religious and social. Without complying with one, it is impossible to do others. One of the social rules is, for example, pre-registration of marriage in the registry office with the issuance of an official document confirming this fact. Further, a few more points must be observed in order to go through the wedding. The rules also state that the age of the newlyweds allowed for the ceremony must be at least 18 years old.
However, there are separate cases in which it is allowed for the bride to be 16. It is also impossible for any of the future spouses to have a third party registered and not yet divorced. Newlyweds may not be admitted to the wedding ceremony if they are related by blood or in a proper relationship up to the third generation. Compliance with all rules is mandatory.
Do I need to be baptized?
There are some more necessary items that are needed for the wedding. For example, both of the established couples should go through the rite of baptism in their lives. If this for some reason has not yet occurred, then this process must first be carried out before the wedding. A separate case to consider is the desire of the couple to tie the knot in front of the Lord, when one of the newlyweds is a representative of a different religion. For example, a parishioner of the Catholic and Lutheran Church. This situation is resolved as follows.
The couple is allowed to the wedding ceremony only if each spouse undertakes to bring up children born in this union in accordance with the traditions and canons of the Orthodox religion. Invalid is the wedding of newlyweds, who are already in church kinship. For example, godchildren or godparents. It is not allowed to tie a couple to a marriage in the face of God, if the bride or groom openly declare atheism or the conduct of the rite is not on his own will. In this case, the proponents of the wedding, as a rule, become the parents of one of the parties. In such a situation, the priest has the right to refuse to hold the ceremony. The last rule says that getting married is allowed no more than three times in a lifetime. Although, of course, it is better to perform this ceremony once and for all.
Communion and confession - obligatory ceremonies before the wedding
An important stage of preparation for the sacrament is the communion, as well as the confession of each of the couple. On the threshold of these rites, fasting should be observed, which lasts three days. He imposes a restriction on this period in the form of a ban on the use of alcoholic beverages, as well as intimate intimacy between spouses. It is best to devote this period to reading prayers, communicating with the Almighty, and setting up the right mood. This leads to the order of thought, and also brings peace. After three days of fasting, you should certainly confess, repenting of your sins. After all previous rites, the spouses are considered ready for the wedding.
Crosses and rings for wedding
What do you need for a wedding? On the day of the ceremony, everyone who is going to attend it should have crosses with them. First of all it concerns, of course, newlyweds. Body crosses are one of the main and inalienable attributes of the ceremony. The second important element are rings. Previously, it was necessary to prepare a pair of rings, one of which was made of gold and symbolized the male principle and its power. The second was silver and personified feminine energy. Now these traditions are not obligatory to respect. The main thing is to like the rings and be comfortable for the spouses.
It is important to comply with the following rules. Rings should be given to the priest who will conduct the ceremony before it starts. They will be on the throne for sanctification.
Icons - this is what you need for a wedding without fail. They should be two: one - the Blessed Virgin, the other - Christ. After the ceremony, the icons must be picked up and placed in the house of the newlyweds. This will serve as a very strong amulet to protect the home and the family as a whole. Also, you should purchase wedding candles in advance and be sure to wrap them with a white scarf so as not to burn yourself with melted wax. An important attribute of the ceremony are the towels with wedding symbols. One of them will be spread under the feet of the spouses, the other will be tied to their hands. At the end of the ceremony, they should be folded for storage in the house of the newlyweds.
Requirements for the bride herself
Separate requirements must comply with the bride. Wedding in the church does not allow outright dresses, including the exposure of the neckline, shoulders and back. Today it is difficult to find a dress that meets these requirements. And if this happens, it is unlikely that the outfit will meet modern fashion trends. Therefore, in this case, the cape is used for the wedding. It can be in the form of a jacket or a mantle. These elements of attire should also be light in color and cover the specified body parts. The cape for the wedding can be lace or lace. This element is able to make the appearance of the bride just awesome. It is also necessary to remember that it is necessary during the ceremony to all the fair sex to be covered with her head. For the bride, it can be a veil, a hat. Any other headdress that fits with a wedding outfit will also work.
The cost of the ceremony
When everything is prepared and the appointed day has arrived, proceed directly to the conduct of the ceremony itself. Honeymooners, of course, are interested in the question of how much a wedding will cost them. The price of the very church action, as a rule, is not called by the clergy. Because in the temple only voluntary donation was made in such an amount that the newlyweds and their relatives themselves consider necessary and sufficient. The main expenditures go to the purchase of wedding paraphernalia. To it are worn crosses, wedding candles and scarves, towels, icons, a cape to the bride, and also, of course, the outfits themselves.
Many newlyweds greatly facilitate the procedure, after passing the rite of betrothal. If it is held on the wedding day, then it takes much more time. This sacrament usually occurs a month before the main procession. The choice of newlyweds, they can invite guests to one of the pre-wedding ceremonies. According to many couples, this separation of rites is quite justified. After all, one of them newlyweds present together, not counting the priest. Such a procedure is perceived as a real sacrament. After all, the presence of a large number of people does not contribute to this feeling. If the engagement ceremony is held separately, it significantly reduces the duration of the wedding procession. Such a solution is convenient if elderly guests or children are invited to the ceremony.