The blessing of young parents plays a very important role. In the past centuries, children did not dare disobey their parents, teachers and superiors. Blessed the parents of their children from the early morning until bedtime. Almost all the people lived with God before the coming of Soviet power, went to the temple. In the church life to this day, the tradition and the rule of taking a blessing from the priest not only for the sacrament, but also for serious matters is preserved. Perhaps, thanks to the fact that in the modern Orthodox Church Christians approach the priest for blessing, such a tradition still exists among non-church people.
About what is a blessing
In the modern world, the relationship between children and parents, superiors and subordinates is so simplified that everyone has become as if on an equal footing. Children do not obey their parents and consider themselves smarter, stronger, and after a while, when they break firewood, they do not improve. In the past centuries, the relationship between people, and even more so between parents and children, was completely different. Our grandparents, great-grandparents and great-grandfathers were brought up in large families, where parents from the very beginning taught the children to obey, obedience.
It should be noted that the husband was the real head of the family, the mother taught the children to honor their father. Necessarily before the wedding of the grown up children, the young parents were blessed with the bride and groom. In those days, the children did not dare to run out without the permission of their parents, they would come to the elders and asked to be released. It is this request that is the blessing. Only such a request also has a spiritual meaning. Believer in God, the parent must have prayed for the salvation of his children.
What role does the blessing play in the life of the future family?
As it was said before, a blessing is a permission with a prayer to the Lord. Many know that the future family life must exist until the death of one of the spouses. To the family was strong, full-fledged, the bride and groom should be similar in social status, faith, views on marriage. Parents of the bride and groom often know each other for a long time, communicate, in good relations between
by yourself. The blessing of young parents for a future marriage is a very important undertaking. Even the Church says that without the blessing of parents, marriage is not a real holiday for the birth of a new family. Only with the sincere permission of the parents, the wishes of their happy life together can be considered a blessed marriage. Pious and educated in Orthodox traditions, parents want to see their children satisfied in life. After all, they once married, they were also blessed. The closest people from the side are always better able to see how the groom and bride treat each other. Lovers can not understand whether true love, or so it seems. Often, the mother's heart and intuition suggest how to do the right thing.
What words are usually spoken by parents at the blessing
When a young man and a girl declare that they want to get married, the young parents should bless them. The words of elders are special words, because they go from the very heart, they can influence the future fate of the young family. The speech may be different, but it is necessary with the wishes of love and fidelity. Often, parents who have lived in marriage for most of their life and have won
all disorders, quarrels, insults, advise their children to live in harmony, peace. It is important for young people to listen to advice not to enter into a dispute with their loved one, not to be angry or
to be irritated. It is very important for parents to remind that all grievances should be able to forgive, to love even in a state of grief. Parents will always want them to be pleased with their grandchildren in old age. In the 21st century, young people do not want to tolerate shortcomings, forgive, give in. Egoism takes its own and wins. Therefore, a flurry of divorce. Quite often divorces happen and because children with parents are not friends, parents of children do not appreciate or do it wrong. There is no question of any blessing. They do not know about this rite. No one is aware of the fact that there is a blessing of young parents, and often they do not see the point.
How does the rite in the house of the bride
When the guy with the girl seriously started talking about the wedding and the wedding, then it's timeget permission from their parents, or rather, as they say, ask for hands. The couple comes to the bride's house, tells her parents that they want to get married. Modern parents react differently to such a statement, they may become confused. It is advisable to treat this with understanding. The rite of blessing of young bride parents occurs in a narrow circle. Present, as a rule, only four: the bridegroom, bride, mother and father of the bride. Parents should have an icon of the Mother of God, which they cross with a sign of the cross first daughter, and then her fiance. Who will exactly bless the icon and how to keep it - does not have a strict meaning. The bride and groom should preferably kneel before their parents. After uttering the wishes, and if the parents are deeply religious, then the prayers, the parents baptize the daughter with an icon and give her a kiss, the same way they treat the bridegroom. Perhaps after drawing a cross in the air, parents will attach the icon to the theme of the daughter and the groom.
Blessing in the groom's house
Having received the blessing in the bride's house, the young ones go home to the groom.A young man declares to his parents that he intends to marry his beloved girl and politely asks for blessing. Young people again kneel before their parents. To receive the blessing of the young parents of the groom, one must have an icon of Jesus Christ in the house. It is she who is first blessed by the groom, and then the bride. Parents of the groom can also say words of farewell, pray mentally or out loud. Having received a blessing, the bride and groom can apply with calm spirit to the registrar. It is fair to say that the rite of blessing will be dealt with by Christians, which means, most likely, Orthodox families, and they know what to get married for. After applying to the registry office, you can decide when to hold the wedding.
What icons are needed for the rite of blessing
Often, young and parents are wondering what icon of the Mother of God is neededcook for the blessing. By tradition, take the Kazan icon of the Mother of God of any format. Icons in the house need to be consecrated in a church or monastery. In the absence of Kazan can take any. The Mother of God is one, only the icons are different.
Parents of the bride can have in the house an icon that is inherited. Blessing of young parents with the groom in the house is carried out with the help of the consecrated icon of the Savior. Why do they do this? Why not bless the icon, for example, St. Peter and Fevronia? The Lord Himself commanded that the head of the family (husband, father) is subject to the Lord, and the Mother of God protects the wife, mother. The head of the family gives an answer before God, which means that the groom is also blessed with the icon of the Lord.